Counselling & Psychotherapy
How does psychotherapy help your mental health?
Much of our mental health and wellbeing is based on our ability to take care of ourselves and be in healthy relationships. Eric Berne, founder of Transactional Analysis, believed that mental health was a measure of one’s capacities for autonomy, spontaneity,and intimacy. People who suffer from mental ill-health may feel unable to function well in certain areas of their lives and struggle to feel good about themselves and their relationships.
Psychotherapy is a discipline developed from theories about how we develop as people and how we become who we are. A key principle of psychotherapy is that our sense of self begins to form in our very early relationships. If this doesn’t happen well, we may find it a struggle to have loving and trusting relationships, feel confident about our capacity to cope with change and look after ourselves.
Reasons for therapy:
- anxiety or depression
- entrenched relationship patterns which are hurtful, harmful, de-vitalising, abusive, or not satisfying and loving
- a foreboding sense of loneliness or abandonment
- lack of confidence and self-esteem
- grief & bereavement: dealing with loss or major change
- when your existing relationships or support structures are not providing you with what you need
- to explore what is blocking you from achieving something in your career or relationships
- past trauma which is affecting your functioning and ability to move forward with your life
- general burn-out, overwhelm or ongoing stress in your life
- to confront issues from your childhood and family of origin which are affecting you in your relationships now and you want to change
- to make changes before you hand things down to your children, or if you have already and want to deal with it
Potential benefits and outcomes of therapy:
- developing a strong sense of self with healthy boundaries and a greater range of internal resources
- systematically free yourself from the limiting beliefs your have carried from your past
- more satisfying, fun, healthy, loving, intimate relationships
- get to know yourself better – what do you really think and feel about things and how do you express this with others?
- feeling more comfortable and confident within yourself
- living with more spontaneity and freedom to be yourself and rewrite the story of your life, now and into the future
- learn to relax and trust in life
- discover what it is like being in relationship with you
- practice and experiment new ways of being to transfer into your relational life
Both counselling and psychotherapy are underpinned by an ever-growing body of scientific research into the brain and how it functions and develops in the context of our relationships.
The findings of this research offer us ways of understanding how we work as therapists in relation to our clients and what they need for their brain and their body to process in a functional way. This work happens in relationship.
Although psychotherapy is a very personal and intuitive process, it is important that these aspects are grounded in empirical knowledge and evidence-based practice.
How I Work
I have a deep respect for the uniqueness and individuality of each person, and their own process of development.
This means everyone has different requirements of therapy and I carefully tailor a treatment plan to meet your personal requirements.
This includes all the areas you wish to address within a framework of a broader contract based on my assessment of your psychological needs and functioning.
My approach is integrative and holistic, incorporating the physical/body/somatic, mental, emotional, psychological, relational and spiritual aspects of each client.
Working with whatever issues you bring, we explore together what this means for you and how it relates to your overall intention for therapy.
For more information about the theoretical and training background see my Biography page.